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Why We Procrastinate and How to Finally Stop


By: Narina Arushanova
Owner of Ask Narina 

Don’t tell me you’ve never procrastinated; we all have and it’s a struggle many of us face on a daily basis. We tell ourselves that certain tasks are simply more important than others and then days, weeks, months and sometimes even years pass by where we don’t take action. Then, we wonder why life never changes for the better or why it feels as if the same thing keeps happening over and over again.

You have goals and that’s awesome! After all, your work and your ideas matter; you matter. I write this article with the best intention to help you combat what may be a silent killer of your goals (business or personal).

ROOT CAUSE 

Through my years of coaching people from different walks of life, I coached clients who suffered from severe depression as well as people who felt stuck in their lives. I also coached folks who had amazing plans for their lives, yet never seemed to take any particular action toward their goals.

In time, I learned that the root cause(s) of procrastination is/are the following:
    Fear
    Uncertainty
    Disappointment
    Lack of Clarity 
I am taking the idea of procrastination beyond the typical thought of postponing to finish a project or an assignment. I believe that procrastination is deeply rooted to our fears and overall view on anything we do. In my experience and through working with my clients, I learned that how you show up in one area of your life is how you show up in other areas of your life.

Does the following ring a bell?
    It won’t work, so why bother?
    The time is not right
    It has to be perfect
    I need to be inspired
    I need motivation
    I’ll do it later, I have time


All of the above are mental blocks, so when I hear folks advising each other to prioritize tasks, I think to myself that it’s half the battle. In actuality, prioritization is not the issue here; prioritization is simple when you wholeheartedly believe you can achieve something and want it bad enough. In fact, you will MAKE TIME for anything you truly want to achieve and you will find a way to achieve it.

Can you remember a time when you really wanted something and could clearly see a way to achieve it? You probably did anything you could in order to get what you wanted.

YOUR INSIDE VOICE(S)

In a nutshell, there’s a little voice inside your head, which is preventing you from achieving your goal or accomplishing certain tasks. In fact, it’s two little voices; allow me to introduce them.

Voice #1: A bully that makes you feel bad for not getting “it” done (whatever “it” may be)

Voice #2: A friend that tries to make you feel better for not getting “it” done. This voice protects you from Voice #1 and makes you think it’s ok to put off something for later.

The truth, both of these voices mean well, but they are harming you.

Now, let me introduce you to a third voice, which tries to speak up an break through the noise of Voice #1 and Voice #2.

Voice #3 is your inner voice that tries to offer guidance and support to you. This voice is a parent to the two other voices, who bicker and argue with one another.

I found that a particular method of imagination and meditation helps to prevent procrastination. Try the below meditation to help you overcome procrastination.

Step 1: Close your eyes and imagine the task/goal you want to achieve.

Step 2: Now, bring your awareness to what you actually do instead of accomplishing this task. Are you working on a different task? Are you scrolling through the News Feed on your phone? Are you watching TV? Create this scene and be completely honest with yourself.

Note: If your goal is broad, choose a task to associate the goal with, which will be the first step to achieving your goal.

Step 3: Now, bring in Voice #1 and Voice #2 and listen to how they argue with one another. Listen to them and thank them for having the best intention, but it’s time for you to speak; their time is up.

Step 4: Welcome your inner voice (Voice #3) and parent the other two voices to change their attitude. Imagine the two bickering voices fading away and your true inner voice - which wants you to achieve great things and stay on top of your tasks - rise up.

Step 5: Imagine completing the task you’ve been meaning to accomplish and bring in a joyous feeling of accomplishment. Get in touch with your heart and FEEL how amazing it would be to achieve that particular goal.

Step 6: When you feel accomplished, open your eyes and schedule a time to complete the task.

Are you afraid of not completing the scheduled task? Repeat the meditation on a daily basis, because it will help strengthen your “productivity muscle.” 

MEDITATION

PRODUCTIVITY MUSCLE

Train this muscle by finishing anything you start, regardless if it’s a large project or small. The most important thing is to complete what you start. This is an important muscle to train and congratulate yourself for finishing projects and accomplishing goals. Get in the habit of feeling proud of yourself and become your own cheerleader in the process.

One of the biggest lessons I learned is that perfection can hurt you if you don’t learn to control it. Can you relate to postponing a project or starting something until the “time is right”?

The time is now, start somewhere, anywhere, and just modify, adjust, grow, polish and improve. You have to make mistakes in order to discover what you can do better. Without mistakes, you’re still at point A and there’s an entire alphabet you need to get to. Start somewhere and watch what happens.

For bigger and more complex goals (life goals), you’ll need to gain clarity and identify first steps to achieving your goals.

Until next time…


Narina 


Written By: Narina Arushanova
Owner of Ask Narina 

By: Narina Arushanova
Owner of Ask Narina 

Why We Procrastinate and How to Finally Stop

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Don’t tell me you’ve never procrastinated; we all have and it’s a struggle many of us face on a daily basis. We tell ourselves that certain tasks are simply more important than others and then days, weeks, months and sometimes even years pass by where we don’t take action. Then, we wonder why life never changes for the better or why it feels as if the same thing keeps happening over and over again.

You have goals and that’s awesome! After all, your work and your ideas matter; you matter. I write this article with the best intention to help you combat what may be a silent killer of your goals (business or personal).


All of the above are mental blocks, so when I hear folks advising each other to prioritize tasks, I think to myself that it’s half the battle. In actuality, prioritization is not the issue here; prioritization is simple when you wholeheartedly believe you can achieve something and want it bad enough. In fact, you will MAKE TIME for anything you truly want to achieve and you will find a way to achieve it.

Can you remember a time when you really wanted something and could clearly see a way to achieve it? You probably did anything you could in order to get what you wanted.


Root Cause

Through my years of coaching people from different walks of life, I coached clients who suffered from severe depression as well as people who felt stuck in their lives. I also coached folks who had amazing plans for their lives, yet never seemed to take any particular action toward their goals.

In time, I learned that the root cause(s) of procrastination is/are the following:
    Fear
    Uncertainty
    Disappointment
    Lack of Clarity

I am taking the idea of procrastination beyond the typical thought of postponing to finish a project or an assignment. I believe that procrastination is deeply rooted to our fears and overall view on anything we do. In my experience and through working with my clients, I learned that how you show up in one area of your life is how you show up in other areas of your life.

Does the following ring a bell?
    It won’t work, so why bother?
    The time is not right
    It has to be perfect
    I need to be inspired
    I need motivation
    I’ll do it later, I have time

introduction

In a nutshell, there’s a little voice inside your head, which is preventing you from achieving your goal or accomplishing certain tasks. In fact, it’s two little voices; allow me to introduce them.

Voice #1: A bully that makes you feel bad for not getting “it” done (whatever “it” may be)

Voice #2: A friend that tries to make you feel better for not getting “it” done. This voice protects you from Voice #1 and makes you think it’s ok to put off something for later.

The truth, both of these voices mean well, but they are harming you.

Now, let me introduce you to a third voice, which tries to speak up an break through the noise of Voice #1 and Voice #2.

Voice #3 is your inner voice that tries to offer guidance and support to you. This voice is a parent to the two other voices, who bicker and argue with one another.

Your Inside Voice(s)

Meditation

Note: If your goal is broad, choose a task to associate the goal with, which will be the first step to achieving your goal.

Step 3: Now, bring in Voice #1 and Voice #2 and listen to how they argue with one another. Listen to them and thank them for having the best intention, but it’s time for you to speak; their time is up.

Step 4: Welcome your inner voice (Voice #3) and parent the other two voices to change their attitude. Imagine the two bickering voices fading away and your true inner voice - which wants you to achieve great things and stay on top of your tasks - rise up.

Step 5: Imagine completing the task you’ve been meaning to accomplish and bring in a joyous feeling of accomplishment. Get in touch with your heart and FEEL how amazing it would be to achieve that particular goal.

Step 6: When you feel accomplished, open your eyes and schedule a time to complete the task.

Are you afraid of not completing the scheduled task? Repeat the meditation on a daily basis, because it will help strengthen your “productivity muscle.”

I found that a particular method of imagination and meditation helps to prevent procrastination. Try the below meditation to help you overcome procrastination.

Step 1: Close your eyes and imagine the task/goal you want to achieve.

Step 2: Now, bring your awareness to what you actually do instead of accomplishing this task. Are you working on a different task? Are you scrolling through the News Feed on your phone? Are you watching TV? Create this scene and be completely honest with yourself.

Productivity Muscle

Train this muscle by finishing anything you start, regardless if it’s a large project or small. The most important thing is to complete what you start. This is an important muscle to train and congratulate yourself for finishing projects and accomplishing goals. Get in the habit of feeling proud of yourself and become your own cheerleader in the process.

One of the biggest lessons I learned is that perfection can hurt you if you don’t learn to control it. Can you relate to postponing a project or starting something until the “time is right”?

The time is now, start somewhere, anywhere, and just modify, adjust, grow, polish and improve. You have to make mistakes in order to discover what you can do better. Without mistakes, you’re still at point A and there’s an entire alphabet you need to get to. Start somewhere and watch what happens.

For bigger and more complex goals (life goals), you’ll need to gain clarity and identify first steps to achieving your goals.

Until next time…


Narina

By: Narina Arushanova
Owner of Ask Narina 

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